((((((((Andrea)))))))))

Sweetie, I'm sorry!! I don't know what to say, but I can completely understand how upset you must be at him right now, and how frustrated you must feel.

Is there any possibility you can call the doctor and talk to them, explain what the situation is?

(((((((((more hugs))))))))))

What Rachel said. And if your husband truly doesn't know why it matters, give him the information he needs.

Yeah, that's the thing though--

I did research. I found articles. I forwarded them to him. I summarized the main points. I asked him if he'd read them. WE have a nephew with wandering eyes who was recently diagnosed and given a prescription for glasses to correct it; his parents told us how the alternative was for him to lose vision in one eye. WE've talked about this for months. For two months, at least once a day. He acted as concerned as I was, angry at the doctor, upset about her crossing her eyes, vowing to get answers at her appointment.

And then....

He has no excuses. None.

Your anger is completely and totally justified. That must be quite frustrating for you, to have trusted him to take care of it, and then fail to come through completely.

I hope it can be corrected though!

Best of luck. And good luck, with tryign to call the doctor, and so on - perhaps they will be sympathetic to the situation and squeeze you in again if needed.

((((((more hugs))))) and some tea: \_/o

Ouch.

[cringing]
I am so sorry.

My husband does the same thing at doctor's appointments, so I've reached the point where if it's something that matters I have to take the kid myself. It sucks. Do call the doctor and let the office know your husband, um, made a mistake.

Also, if the eye doctor's office gives you a hard time about a near future appointment (as opposed to the few months wait you had before) get your pediatrician involved in talking to them.

Oh, good god. I'm so sorry, Andrea. You want we should break his kneecaps for you?

I'm so sorry! Is there any way you can call the doctor or nurse and explain that the information was given incorrectly? Maybe they'll fit you in sooner if they know? I am worried with you!

Liz, here is where the Not-So-Funny Comedy of Errors Effect comes in: She doesn't have a ped yet, because we've asked her old ped to forward her files to the new ped, but they aren't there yet. So. No pediatrician.

Phantom--YES! Do you think you could manage it so that it can't be traced back to our conversation? Let me know if I should edit our comments. ;)

Yikes! That sounds just like something Chris would do. I'm sorry that you didn't get more answers and that you are left feeling so frustrated.

I wish I could trust Chris to take the kids to the docs when I have concerns, but I know better. He just doesn't see things the same as I do and he also can't convey to me what the docs say with any sort of comfort attached to it.

Anyway, I think you should call them back and let them know what's going on in your head. Be forceful if you have to - you have a right to more information.

*hugs*

Get your old pediatrician to call then. Doctors listen to other doctors more readily.

I have a friend who pins questions and notes for the doctor to her child's stroller for precisely this reason!
I think that guys have an innate fear of being seen to be hysterical or overly worried, particularly to doctors or other figures of authority, so my friend's method lets her husband off the hook because (in his mind) she looks like the crazy one. :)
Ah, husbands....

The suggestions above are good - I would call the office and ask to speak to a nurse about the situation. The most important thing is to try to remain very calm and confident when dealing with all of these people, because out of necessity, they tend to tune out angry, stressed patients/parents.

Oh, Andrea. I'm sorry.
I remember trying for a year to convince my (now ex-) husband that our oldest needed glasses. He wouldn't admit it until we went to a baseball game and I mentioned the clock in the outfield. "What clock in the outfield?" asked our son. Oh, just the HUGE CLOCK IN THE OUTFIELD!!! Turns out the child had 20/400 vision.
I do sympathize, on all fronts.

i agree with the above, call the doctor right away and explain the situation. I've had more than my share of medical crises over the past 2 years and I really understand.

i feel so sympathetic to your frustration....you must be fuming...i'll think good thoughts for you...

I'm so sorry. Men can be so clueless sometimes. I think it all stems from the fact that we, as mothers, do the majority of the caring for the kids, so we know the particular questions to ask. If you and your husband have discussed it, and he was fully aware of the situation, then there's just no excuse.

Can you call the doctor, and beg and plead? Talk to your old pediatrician, and tell them the problem, and that your records have not arrived in the new one's office yet, and could they expedite you another appointment. Or, if you could speak to the eye doc on the phone, maybe that would help a bit.

Men. You can't live with 'em, you can't back your four-wheel drive over them.

Thanks, everyone. I really appreciate all the comments and support. I feel a little bit less like frying his liver up for dinner now. I am going to be calling the doctor--I tried a few times today but (guess!) I didn't get through.

Anyway. Thanks.

I bet I could get LG to take out his kneecaps with one of his pretend hockey sticks (a.k.a. my wooden spoons). LG could get out his aggression on someone besides his baby sister, and no one would be the wiser....

Sadly, what Liz says about doctors listening only to other doctors is very true. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen a doctor go from patronizing to empathetic the moment I mention that my husband and/or father are doctors. Grrrrrr....

Oh, this would kill me! And yet, I would not be surprised, because this is such typical behavior for my husband. I think what Tara said is so true--men just don't want to be perceived as hysterical, that's what women are for. ARGH.

I hope you get the doctor on the phone, and can get in to see him again immediately.

Oh, Andrea. I hope everything turns out well for Frances. Good luck getting through to the doctor!

Yikes. Phantom, wait for me! I want in on the kneecap breaking! Hope you get to the eye doctor soon.