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April 2, 2008 this dance is getting harder 
It just so happens that these days, and for much of the last year, most of what I have been driven to write about are subjects that cannot be posted here, for both legal and personal reasons. I've tried to write around them, write through them, pick allegories and analogies, be elliptical and obtuse, and get it all out somehow, and it's not working. I end up frustrated that I can't say what I want or need to say; and because I can't say what I want or need to say, I believe that many of you simply have no idea what I'm saying, period. It also just so happens that I have been blogging most of this stuff elsewhere (under a real! live! pseudonym!); with the result that, because I can say what I really think without all this misdirection and confusion, the weight of personal blogging has been tilting more and more to the other place. It stinks, because it's all stuff I'd like to be able to share with you, but it's just a fact that The Combo Book can't go here. It's tilted far enough that it's fallen over, basically; I'll continue blogging here but it's not going to be the same. The dance has gotten too complicated and I'm giving up. As LauraJ said on her old blog, spring is a good time for new beginnings; it's also a good time for clean breaks. I will still be posting here, but probably not much about what's going on in my head. Which for some of you might be a welcome relief, who knows? I'd like nothing more than to be able to post a big sign saying "this way!" and show off my new home, but for obvious reasons, that can't happen. If you're interested in following you can ask. If I don't tell you, please don't be offended; the pseudonym won't work if everyone knows who I am. This has been a fun project and, in some ways, a big adventure for the last three years; but it's natural lifespan has been reached and now it's time to try something new. I hope you'll stick around (but I promise I won't get snippy if you don't). Edited to add: and the stars agree. From this morning's Toronto Star: Aries (March 21 — April 20) Change is easier to accept when it involves a direct substitution of your choice. Ideally, it's best to be in full control, but the road ahead in your transition is rather unclear. A hidden hand is guiding you into this new world. Trust it and believe in it. And who can argue with that? Posted by Andrea at April 2, 2008 8:19 AM under Web EMAIL this entry (comments fields are below this section) Comments Well, this sounds oddly familiar. :) I would love a link to the new site, if you're comfortable with that. Posted by: Casey at April 2, 2008 9:13 AM
I totally understand. Posted by: Julie Pippert at April 2, 2008 10:37 AM
I've loved all aspects of your blog, but understand that things change ... I'd be interested in following your writing in another venue but understand if you're not sharing the new site. All the best. Posted by: Cath at April 2, 2008 11:10 AM
If you're comfortable inviting me, I'd love to come. Posted by: bubandpie at April 2, 2008 11:36 AM
I, too, would love to read your other blog. Posted by: Sarahlynn at April 2, 2008 11:50 AM
I'd love to visit your other blog, if you want to invite me. If not, I'm still subscribed here and I'll keep reading when you post. Good luck! Posted by: cinnamon gurl at April 2, 2008 12:00 PM
I'll dance whatever dance you want me to be part of. You know my email address... Posted by: Mad at April 2, 2008 12:03 PM
Good luck with your new adventure!! :( I'm going to cry! YOU will be missed! Posted by: LauraJ at April 2, 2008 12:29 PM
I've only commented once but have read for the last year. I felt a real kinship as a newly single mom with a four-year-old daughter. I would love to be able to keep reading at your new home if you're willing, but regardless, please know how much strength and solace I found in your words. Good luck! Posted by: Lindsay at April 2, 2008 12:42 PM
"To everything there is a season." Stay true to yourself and everything else will flow as it should. I've learned tonnes from this place! Posted by: Lee at April 2, 2008 3:37 PM
I'll keep reading, if you don't mind sending the link. I know I'm a bit out of touch right now - but I'm still lurking... Kim Posted by: Kim at April 2, 2008 4:59 PM
I understand about change. Good for you for doing what you feel is necessary. If you're comfortable sending me the link, I'd love to keep following. Otherwise, I'll keep reading here and will be sending you my best wishes. Feel free to contact me if you need to connect over being an average sized person raising a little person in a sometimes less than understanding world. Peace and Health. Posted by: Isabel at April 2, 2008 7:43 PM
I've never commented before, but I've been following your blog for a long time and would love to keep following if you would send me the new link. Posted by: emily at April 2, 2008 8:51 PM
I'm an Aries too. Is that a sign? Like Mad, you know my email address and I would love to follow on. And I do know about keeping things private, oh my. Posted by: Mary G at April 2, 2008 8:59 PM
What they said. I'd love to follow you wherever you go. Email me if you feel comfortable with that! Posted by: Liz at April 2, 2008 9:24 PM
I've also been quietly hanging in the wings- I've been following you and your sweet girl since my own was born two years ago, and now that I'm a newly single mom as well I'll hate to see you go. I'd love to see the new site if you're comfortable with us tagging along, but if not you'll be very much missed. Best of luck with the new venture! Posted by: Megin at April 2, 2008 10:35 PM
Hi hun... I enjoy reading how you and Frances are doing so of course if you feel comfortable sharing please add me to the list of those who would like to continue on :) Posted by: Dawn at April 2, 2008 10:39 PM
Wait - what? Are you leaving???? Nooooooo. Don't go! All of my favorite bloggers are closing up shop lately. (I *did* brush my teeth, didn't I?) Will you still post here occasionally? Posted by: Gina at April 3, 2008 1:12 AM
No, not leaving. I'll still be posting here, just about different things. Posted by: Andrea
I too would like to follow, but only if you are comfortable with that. Posted by: Eryn at April 3, 2008 10:28 AM
I haven't commented in a long long time, but I've been lurking, and would love to read the new blog if you're OK with that; otherwise (or additionally) I'll keep reading here! Posted by: Kermit at April 3, 2008 7:21 PM
I check your blog almost every day, and I'd like to follow. Any chance on the other blog I'll find out the real boy's name I can only think of as -LOL- "Romit"? Posted by: Rian at April 3, 2008 11:40 PM
I'd love to come along for the ride!! I'm a mom in Colorado, US with 2 boys.One has tons of medical issues and reading this blog keeps me sane knowing I'm not the only one ready to scream..:) Jess Posted by: Jess Edelstein at April 4, 2008 11:18 AM
I have been reading you for ages (although I am a bit on the shy quiet side) and would be happy to join you on your other journey, if you are comfortable having me. I too understand the need for privacy, which is why my own blog is with a service where I can "lock" posts when I wish. (If you want to know, ask. Although I'm not nearly the writer you are-- no false modesty, it's true. I enjoy reading you.) Either way I respect your decision...all the best! Posted by: Dayna at April 4, 2008 2:22 PM
I, too, would love to be able to follow you and join you in any writing endeavor you're making (semi) public. Posted by: Sara at April 4, 2008 2:32 PM
I would love to follow your new blogging adventures if that feels right for you. If not, I totally understand. Posted by: Sue at April 4, 2008 7:44 PM
I've only commented a few times, but I would love to keep reading at both sites. If you feel comfortable with that. Posted by: Thursday Next at April 5, 2008 1:10 PM
i have enjoyed reading your very smart blogs-insightful, warm and Posted by: kathleen at April 5, 2008 4:56 PM
Id love to follow you; I dont know you IRL and love your writing. Posted by: curiousgyrl at April 6, 2008 4:32 PM
I'd love to keep up with you & promise to protect your pseudonym! Posted by: artsweet at April 6, 2008 11:12 PM
I'd like to follow your new blog, if you're comfortable with it. I enjoy this one a lot. Posted by: Tory at April 7, 2008 10:36 AM
i emailed you at the address given on this blog only 2 days ago a detailed request to read and occasionally comment on your personal blog because the complexity of your life resonates with mine, although the details are very different. this is a heads up just in case my message got filtered into your spam folder. If you don't have the message and would like me to send another copy, you can email me and i will send you one. Posted by: jael at April 7, 2008 11:37 PM
I have only commented twice I think but would like the link to your new blog. Although I don't get to read every entry I feel like you are someone I admire and would like to keep 'reading' up on your thoughts. Send the link if you feel comfortable but if not I will continue to keep checking in here. Posted by: Jacqueline at April 8, 2008 12:26 AM
I have been lurking for a long time and reading when time permits with my own little one. I have found your insights into the ending and beginnings of relationships in this new computer age really interesting. I would like to follow along as well if you are willing to share. Posted by: Tanya at April 8, 2008 6:10 PM
I think I have only ever commented once or twice, but I've been following your story for awhile and I can identify with SO much of it, particularly the bits you can't blog about here anymore. I would be very honoured if I could continue to read you at your new site- if it's not cool with you though I also totally understand and of course I will still enjoy your posts here :) Posted by: Tosca at April 8, 2008 6:26 PM
Hi Andrea. I sent an email to the address in your sidebar. If you got it, cool. If you didn't, and you have minute, want to let me know a better email address to use? Posted by: Madeleine at April 10, 2008 2:42 PM
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