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May 23, 2008 Next time you're about to give yourself the World's Worst Mother Award, remember this 
I had a different post planned for today, but I posted several months ago about the baby who was abandoned in a parking-garage stairwell here in Toronto; she was assumed to be eight months old, and named Angelica-Leslie by CAS workers after several days had passed with no clues coming forward about who she is. I thought that those of you who don't live in the area and so would not otherwise hear the end of the story might appreciate knowing that two people have been arrested in connection with her abandonment. Left her in a freezing stairwell in a parking garage like a used kleenex or an empty candy wrapper. I don't want to imagine what it's going to do to her to know that her parents thought so little of her, but I do. Posted by Andrea at May 23, 2008 9:57 AM under Mothers and Anti-Mothers EMAIL this entry (comments fields are below this section) Comments What a terrible story. And what of the other children? I wonder what their lives have been like. What I wouldn't do to be able to just take them home with me. Posted by: Amy/P.O.W. at May 23, 2008 11:43 AM
I was just going to say - I'm so glad that there has been an outpouring of love and offers to adopt, but what about the other, older children? What happens to them? How do you undo that kind of damage? Posted by: Snafooey at May 23, 2008 12:59 PM
We don't actually knokw what kind of damage there was for the older kids. They may not have been abused at all--remember the case of Jeffrey, the little boy who was starved to death by his grandparents? The two older siblings were praised to the skies and allowed to participate in the abuse of the two younger. And even so, only one of hte kids (Jeffrey) was continually treated like a "pig." So I think it's a mistake to assume that the older three kids even perceived that there was a problem. There probably is some kind of damage, but it might not be what people assume. Posted by: Andrea
Why? What prompts people to believe this is the best and only course? My minds rushed through tons of scenarios: * a father trying to protect an infant from an abusive mother, unable to do it legally through an agency out of fear, desire to protect his spouse * heartless sociopaths, with no thought for the child or the person who found her * confused and ignorant people * dysfunctional due to their own damage Just...why? We will probably not really know why. Maybe what but doubtfully why. So horrible but TG she's thriving in a foster home, and all the hopes she gets a good permanent home---which might very well be with family---where she thrives in spit of this. Posted by: Julie Pippert at May 27, 2008 10:17 AM
Thanks for that update, Andrea. I had tried looking for information on her a while back, but found nothing. I'm glad she's doing well. I don't even know what to think about the parents. As bad as things sometimes get around here, I can't even fathom doing what they did to that little girl. Posted by: Major Bedhead at May 29, 2008 1:37 PM
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